Hiii, I’m Amanda.

I work with people who have spent years trying to understand themselves and are getting really fucking tired of still doing the same things in the heat of the moment.

You can know you're catastrophising and still be convinced someone is losing interest because they took longer than usual to text you back. You can know you struggle to ask for what you need and still spend three days wondering why the other person hasn't figured it out themselves.

I know this territory well.

I spent years being able to explain myself brilliantly while still making choices that made absolutely no sense for the life I said I wanted.

I learned early how to read people, figure out what was expected of me, and become very capable very quickly. That followed me into adulthood. I built businesses, moved countries, raised two daughters, and became very good at figuring shit out.

I also became very good at making sure I didn't need too much from anyone.

After six years of therapy, I understood my childhood, my patterns, and why I reacted the way I did. And I could still know I was catastrophising and fully believe the catastrophe.

Eventually, I became much more interested in what happened in the moment I did those things than in collecting more explanations for why.

That's a big part of how I work now.

You bring me something real from your life. The text you've rewritten six times. The yes you already regret. The conversation you're avoiding. The relationship you've practically ended in your head because someone did one slightly confusing thing.

We slow it down, look at what's happening, and practise doing something different.

Sometimes that means having the conversation together. Sometimes it's noticing what happens in your body when you imagine asking for what you want. Sometimes it's realising that the answer you've been trying to convince yourself of isn't your answer at all.

I want all that self-awareness you've worked so hard for to become useful in your actual life.

So you can say what you mean, know what you want, and stay connected to yourself when things get uncomfortable.

Because at some point, you have to ask yourself whether the life you've become so good at managing is one you genuinely want.